Building a relationship with a person who is emotionally unavailable can be an extremely frustrating experience. The likelihood of failure when trying to win the heart of an emotionally unavailable individual is very high and might just lead to heart break. The signs that a person is emotionally available are easy to point out but people usually don’t because they hope that the person they are dating will change. The end result is usually disappointment and heart ache. Here is how to tell if the person you’re dating Is emotionally unavailable;
1. If they fail to show up at events that are important to you
If a person fails to show up at an event (e.g. work event, birthday party, etc.) that is important to you, it shows that they do not care about you. A person who is emotionally available will definitely come to all your important events. If a person that cares fails to attend, he/she will give you a good explanation. An emotionally unavailable person on the other hand will not come to your events and will not bother to give you any explanation.
2. If you are giving more than you are receiving
When dating an emotionally unavailable person, you will always be giving more than what you receive. Evaluate your relationship to determine if this is the case. Do you buy gifts all the time? Do you pay for dinner every time? If yes, then you might be dating an emotionally unavailable person. A person that is emotionally available will always want to make you happy by showering you with gifts and flowers. If you are the one buying things for him/her all the time, just save yourself by exiting that relationship.
3. If the person is constantly speaking about the past
An emotionally unavailable person always talks about his/her past. How often does he/she talk about the exes? A person that speaks highly about the past relationships has definitely not moved on. A person can never be emotionally available to you if he/she is still thinking about people he dated in the past. A person who is still tied to the past will just waste your time and will just end up breaking your heart.
4. If the person is a poor communicator
If you do not get clear answers from him/her when you ask questions concerning your relationship, then the person you are dating might be emotionally unavailable. Two people who are emotionally attached should not have any difficulty when communicating with each other. If you are the one initializing a conversation all the time, you should raise a red flag. If he/she does not pick your phone calls, raise a red flag. You can never have a relationship with a person that does not want to communicate with your openly.
You are the one who is going to be hurt when you start a relationship with a person who is not emotionally available. Therefore, to protect yourself, look for these signs when you have the slightest doubt that he/she is emotionally unavailable. When you find them, just walk away from the relationship for your own good.